I usually like the window seat. That probably surprises no one, considering the name of this website. But on a last-minute flight from London to Rome, there were only a few seats left, and I ended up in an aisle seat next to two charming women — a mother and daughter — who were headed to Italy together.
And honestly, I think I was exactly where I was supposed to be.
I had booked the trip at the last minute while I was already going to London. I had vacation time I needed to use before the end of the year, plenty of airline miles sitting in my account, and I thought, what better way to spend them than going back to one of my favorite places — London, England. Then I started thinking: Italy is such a short flight from London. Why not take a little three-day detour to Rome? Just enough time to say I did it. Just enough time to taste the pasta and pizza, enjoy a nice glass of wine, and take in the beautiful basilicas.
So that’s what I did. I bought the ticket.
That’s the thing about travel. Sometimes the best memories do not start with a perfect plan. Sometimes they start with a little window of opportunity, a few vacation days, some airline miles, and the thought, “I could actually do this.”
The mother and daughter sitting next to me were just as excited about Italy as I was. The daughter was in her 20s, and it was her first trip to Italy. Her mother had grown up in Florence, then moved to England and married an Englishman. They now lived in Dorset, and she was taking her daughter back to Italy for three weeks to show her where she grew up and to meet relatives who still lived there.
They had lovely plans, the kind that make you lean in a little when someone is talking because you can hear the excitement in their voice. We chatted about Florence, family, food, and the joy of going somewhere that means something. They asked what I was doing in Italy, and I told them my story.
I explained that this was a last-minute trip. I had been in London and decided to add three days in Rome because the ticket was inexpensive, the flight was short, and honestly, I just wanted to go.
Then I told them the part that mattered most. My mother had always dreamed of going to the Vatican. And that day was her birthday.
I told them how much it meant to me that I was flying to Rome on her birthday. Even though I was traveling by myself, I felt like she was with me in spirit on that flight and on that journey. I was going to eat pasta and think about how my mother would have marveled at how delicious it was. I was going to have a glass of wine and imagine how it would have made her giggle after glass number two. Actually, we probably would have become ridiculous. She used to call us Thelma and Louise on our little adventures when she was alive.
My mother had this cackle when she really laughed. Not a polite laugh. A real one. A good-time laugh. When she cackled, you knew everyone was having fun. And I could almost hear it.
I told them how I imagined her walking into the basilicas, taking in the spiritual presence, the ornate ceilings, the holy water, the candles, the pews, and the beauty of it all. I could picture her kneeling down and saying prayers for everybody she knew, everybody she loved, and everybody she worried about.
Because that was my mother.
She would have dipped her fingers into the holy water and blessed herself — forehead, heart, left shoulder, right shoulder — in a holy city she had only dreamed of seeing. And there I was, going without her. Going by myself. Imagining her by my side and doing the things we could have done together if she were still alive and had been able to make that journey.
As I talked, the mother sitting by the window listened quietly. She really listened. And the irony was not lost on me.
I usually love the window seat. I even built a whole name around it. But on that flight, I was in the aisle seat, and the woman in the window seat became the wise, gentle presence I didn’t know I needed. Because I’ve always felt the best advice comes from the window seat.
I think she understood that this little three-day trip was not really little at all. It was pasta and pizza and wine, yes. It was Rome and basilicas and airline miles, yes. But it was also my mother’s birthday. It was grief. It was love.
It was taking a trip for both of us.
As I looked at this mother and daughter on their way to Florence together, I couldn’t help but tell them how special it was that they were doing this. The mother was going back to show her daughter where she came from. The daughter was getting to see it while her mother was still there to tell the stories.
That is a blessing.
I think maybe, in some quiet way, they saw it too. I was older than the daughter. My mother would have been older than the mother. Maybe our conversation became a little reminder that the time we have with people is not guaranteed.
They were getting to do for real what I was having to imagine. They were going together.
I was going with memories.
As the plane started to descend into Rome, the mother reached toward me. At first, I thought she was going to take my hand. But instead, she had something in hers.
It was a little wooden cross called a palm cross. She kept it in a small case and carried it with her everywhere. She placed it into my hand. She smiled and said, “I think you need this more than me.”
She told me she enjoyed our conversation and believed we were meant to sit together that day. I told her I was thinking the very same thing.
I told her how much it meant to me. I told her this trip could not have happened on a better day and that it meant so much that she would gift me such a wonderful (and personal) little memento on my mother’s birthday, on my way to the city my mother had always dreamed about. We all became teary-eyed.
I was stunned, and could not believe her generosity towards a complete stranger. I accepted it with deep gratitude. What a way to start my mini Italian journey.
As the plane landed and we got up to leave, we hugged goodbye. They told me I should try and make it to Dorset someday.
Even now, I think about them. I always will. I wonder how their trip went. I wonder about the daughter seeing Florence for the first time and the mother showing her the streets, the family, the food, and the pieces of her life that came before England. I think about how wonderful that trip must have been for them as mother and daughter and how lucky they were to have that time together.
When I got to Rome and checked into my hotel, my first stop was exactly what I had imagined: pasta, wine, and a salad at an outdoor restaurant. And wouldn’t you know it, I ended up sitting next to two more women — another mother and daughter traveling together.
They were wonderful too. There was something about that day. Everywhere I turned, there seemed to be mothers and daughters sharing Italy, sharing stories, and sharing time.
And I told them I was on a mother-daughter journey too. Even though I was by myself, I wasn’t truly alone.
I marveled at the fountains. I walked into the basilicas. I looked up at the ceilings, the ornate designs, and the beauty of a city that sometimes felt like too much to take in all at once. With every step I took in Rome, I felt my mother with me.
Not in the way I wished, of course. I would have given anything to have her sitting across from me at that outdoor table, laughing over pasta, ordering a second glass of wine, and turning into Thelma and Louise with me all over again.
But I had her with me in the only way I could. In memory. In spirit. In every church doorway, every basilica, every bite of food I wished she could taste, and every little moment where I thought, “Oh, Mom, you would have loved this.”
That three-day trip to Rome became one of the most magical trips I have ever taken. Not because it was long. Not because it was perfectly planned. Not because I saw everything.
But because it happened on the right day, for the right reason, with the right strangers beside me at the right time.
I still have the palm cross. I adore it, and I take it with me when I travel.
It reminds me of Rome. It reminds me of my mother. It reminds me of the kindness of a stranger on an airplane. And it reminds me that sometimes you don’t get the seat you wanted.
You get the seat you were meant to have.
That is what travel can do sometimes. It can take you somewhere new but bring you closer to someone you miss. It can put you beside strangers who don’t feel like strangers for very long. It can turn a last-minute three-day detour into something you remember for the rest of your life.
And on that flight from London to Rome, in an aisle seat I would not have picked for myself, I was given a palm cross, a blessing, and a reminder that my mother was very much along for the journey.
— Blanche Carroll
Founder, Window Seat Therapist™
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